The men in my life have been wreaking all sorts of havoc the past few weeks. Some of it good, some of it bad. All of it interesting, at least to me. Oh, and J, my "me too" partner. And that's all I'm going to say about that.

Can I be more vague?? Hmmm...

On a slightly related note, I've noticed an attitude lately that is bothering me. It bothers me almost as much as the opposite attitude. Now, I've been single for a while. Almost a year, in fact. More than occassionally, less than frequently, I mention my desire to end this state. Yes, I would like to have someone in my life. And what do I hear?

"I like being by myself"
"You have to like yourself before you can be with someone else"
"Don't you like yourself enough to be ok being single?"
(the opposite being "We have to get you married" and "I just want you to meet a nice boy!")

Yes, I like myself. Yes, I do just fine being by myself. Is it so wrong to want to be with someone else for a change?? I happen to like having someone's arms around me. I like having someone around to bounce ideas off of, regardless of their level of inanity. I like being around someone who wants to be with me, not just be with me for a bit before heading off to see the rest of his friends.

I don't really see this as a lack of self-confidence or a character flaw. Just as I don't see my aversion to getting married and start having kids as a lack of goals or a character flaw. I am a work in progress, and I'll get where I'm going eventually, without all the good-natured, well-meaning reminders of who or how I should be.

So there.