Bitchy Rant of the Day:

Tell me something:

Let's say you're drawing up an email list for an upcoming shindig, and you come across a couple you want to invite. You have an address for each member of this inseparable pair, and you know that, in the event that you should invite only one, the other will most certainly hear of it. Do you still send out the invitation to both? Or just to the one most likely to receive and act on the email first?

My issue here is that in the second case, the person who didn't get the email might feel (if this happens often enough) like maybe once in a while they'd appreciated getting invited to parties and get-togethers as an individual, rather than as the taken-for-granted half of a pair. Or worse *gasp*, like the host might have forgotten their existence altogether and has invited only the interesting (or better) half.

In case you haven't guessed by now, I am generally the half that doesn't get the email. Ever. What's worse *gasp* is that I am not part of a couple, or other romantic joining. No way, Jose. Naw, it's just that my best friend is very popular and gets invited everywhere, usually within the same general group of people. One would think, after 7 months of going to parties with him, that once in a while, when people sent out the invitations, I might get one as well, rather than hearing about the affair from him and going along as his "ornament" (term used lightly, as I'm not really ornamental material).

This assumes, of course, that the hosts of these parties and gatherings even want me there. It could be that the allure of my friend's attendance is enough to make them tolerate my presence, and they wouldn't really miss me should I decide in a fit of nerves not to attend since I didn't get invited. I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt and thinking that maybe since we do show up together so often, they simply assume that if he is invited that I'll show up and they're happy with that assumption. I don't know what the deal is, but I'm getting tired of apparently being thought of as "whatshisname's friend"*, and not as myself.

So yeah. That's my bitchy little rant for today.

*Not that I mind being known as his friend. After all, he is my best friend. I'm just looking for a tiny bit of recognition that I have a life and personality separate from his. Argh.