Look!!! A
rewrite!!! At long last ...
Ramble, ramble, rant, rant ...
When left alone for long periods of time, I get contemplative. Or I watch TV. Sometimes I do both, hard as that is to believe. Last night, I was staring at the screen during a commercial break, not really paying attention, but letting my mind drift until the next installment of either the Frying of Rob Reiner, The Street, or the Halloween episode (a day late) of the Simpsons, I can't remember....
Anyway, a commercial for some SUV caught my attention. It's not important which one it was (I can't remember anyway). The point of the commercial, though, was that they were promising to deliver every
thing you'd ever want in a car, and thus, in life.
Never mind the fact that I have a problem with the idea that a car can make your life better. And never mind that that car is an SUV.
This isn't really about the car, though, but about our attitude toward
things.
Things that save time,
things that keep other things clean,
things that allow you to do nothing at all,
things that make you look better than your neighbor. They're supposed to be good
things, but I think it often turns out that these
things weigh us down, making life more complicated than it needs to be.
When I go Home, I see that the attitudes of those who stayed have not changed in the least. Or maybe mine have changed since I left. Granted, they've been there for 20 years, whereas the longest I've ever stayed in one place since I left Home is 2 1/2 years. And they have more space in which to put all this stuff they've accumulated over the years, while my living spaces have gotten smaller and smaller over time. Still, they seem unaware of the difference between "Do I need it?" and "Do I want it?". If they are aware of the difference, it doesn't seem to affect their decision to buy. Not that I'm exemplary by any means when it comes to buying stuff, but I try.
Example: I couldn't believe my ears when my father started suggesting that I buy a new car after I had owned mine for a mere year or two. Why, I asked. Well, he said, you've had yours for a few years, the value has gone down, and it's time for something new. But my truck works just fine, I said. Yeah, but it might not for very much longer, he replied. That was at least 5 years and 75,000 miles ago.
As my square footage has decreased, I've tried to shed
things that don't hold any sentimental value or reflect my personality. It's tough. I have been a packrat from the beginning. Every
thing goes through the test of Do I need it? If I don't, then the question becomes How much does it mean to me? If it scores low on both counts, then it's gone. I still have an incredible amount of stuff for a single person living in a studio. (Strangely enough, I find that it costs money to downsize. I throw away three
things, and I buy one to replace them.)
On another note, I also keep hearing another car commercial in the mornings (do you see a car theme here?), in which the tagline is "Because we think freedom should be more than a feeling. It should be something that you can actually touch."
Freedom and happiness and every
thing you'd ever want, in a car. Makes you wonder what value anyone who doesn't have a car sees in continuing another day.
At some level, it seems we've come to believe we're all entitled to perfect happiness, to having not just all our needs met, but also all our wants met. Where the hell did this come from? We rail against parents who give their children everything, creating lazy, spoiled brats, unfit for society. But every
thing we do demonstrates that we'd like nothing better than to be those lazy, spoiled brats.
I think it's healthy not to have every
thing you want. It's even healthy not to have every
thing you need. Otherwise, what is there to look forward to? With the right attitude, you can find joy in the simple
things in life, avoiding the ennui stereotypically suffered by those who have too much and don't realize how much they really have.
Sure, I want
things (take a look at my
wishlist, above), but they need to have more value than simply monetary, or I'll give them to someone who does need them.
Freedom and happiness are in the mind, not in your checkbook.
As
Calamondin quotes:
'Contentment is not in getting every
thing you want but in being happy with every
thing you have.'